I wonder why Moses, when he says “these people should go back,” does not say “Is there anyone who has a family and children? Let him go back to his home, lest he die in battle and they become incomplete for his loss.” I am not saying that a family without a father is incomplete, but from what I have heard, the loss of a family member hurts more than I can know (please G-d) or describe. I’m fortunate enough not to have lost a beloved family member, so I don’t know how to describe that loss. A vineyard can’t feel loss, nor can a house. But a spouse, children or parents are those who lose a war. A part of a quote from a Magic the Gathering card (Knowledge can come from anywhere) says “I count eight graves. Too many to call this a victory.” Ah, for the good old (old, old, old, old, old, old, old, old, etc.) days, when you could lose less than 8 soldiers in a war. But nobody really wins in war. Land, people, and the economy all suffer. Of all of these, only the economy really recovers. The land will always hold those graves, and the dead will not return from war.
For those who died to protect our country, Zikronam Liv’racha.
By me, with help from G-d.